One of the trickiest parts of a divorce for parents is breaking the news of the separation to the kids. The issues are different depending on the ages of your children but it is always an important conversation. I wrote a very comprehensive guide to how to prepare for and handle this situation on our Lakeway divorce site, you can view the post here.
The guide covers general suggestions that apply to all situations regardless of age and has additional specific tips that are applicable to preschool age children, elementary school age children and teenagers. If you or someone close to you is in this position I really recommend you take a look at this guide for some tips on how to handle this discussion in a way that will best help your child deal with it.
Almost everyone deals with getting pulled over for speeding or some other minor traffic violation. A lot of people are unnerved when this happens and not sure how to handle it. Today we have a guest post by Andrew Flusche on just this subject. Andrew is a Virginia lawyer who helps drivers fight their tickets for Continue reading
I don’t usually blog about celebrity divorces but I have been inundated with news stories about the Kardashian divorce for more than a year now so I am feeling a little bit celebratory upon hearing of a settlement. With all the money involved in the case it would be logical to assume that the reason the case took so long to resolve was that the parties were squabbling over who got what. In this case I think it was actually more a case of Kris Humphries (the NBA player husband) Continue reading
We have a treat today, marriage expert Mort Fertel is our guest blogger. He is the author of “Marriage Fitness: 4 Steps to Building & Maintaining Phenomenal Love” and a very big name in the field of marriage improvement and in today’s post he discusses how people can fix their marriages and avoid divorce. So here’s Mort:
For more than a decade now I’ve helped thousands of marriages come back from the brink of divorce. In this blog post, I want to offer some insight into how.
I want to start with an email I received from a man who was in the Lone Ranger Track of my Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp. Here’s the email…
Trish and I were high school sweethearts and have lived what appeared to her to be a “Cunningham” life for 25 years. I have a successful career, our kids are normal, and Trish made wonderful holiday celebrations for us throughout the years.
But things were not as ideal as they seemed. After the kids were born, Trish turned all her love and attention to them while neglecting me. This left me vulnerable and I had 5 affairs (some real relationships) over the past 15 years.
Long story short, Trish found out one month ago about my recent one, and I confessed to the others. She’s devastated and accuses me of ruining her life and being a fake. Continue reading
We always hear about mistakes that parents make while going through a divorce. There are many ways to do it wrong and no one does it perfectly. But instead of focusing on the myriad of things you can mess up when it comes to divorce and your kids let’s change the focus and get some ideas on exactly what you should do. Pyschcentral.com wrote an excellent post on exactly this topic that I would recommend to you if Continue reading
A 26 year long marriage study by the University of Michigan uncovered some very interesting and surprising facts about the impact that each spouse’s relationship with the in-laws had on that couple’s likelihood of divorce. This was first reported in the Wall Street Journal.
Impact of Husband’s Relationship with In-Laws
As one might expect, a close relationship between husband and his in-laws (the wife’s parents) was beneficial. The divorce rate for couples in this scenario was 20% lower as compared to Continue reading
A recent Norwegian study found that in couples who equally shared the housework the divorce rate was 50% higher! Now before we extrapolate too much from the study, we should note that the study was based on Norway couples only. Thus, their cultural norms play a significant role in their national divorce rates.
But still, 50% is pretty shocking.
Is Housework the Real Culprit?
The author of the study concluded that Continue reading
Now that 2012 is coming to a close I thought it was time to share my favorite divorce-related blog posts of the year. Each of these posts is an excellent post on the topic it dealt with and is worth your time in reading. Without further ado, here are the best divorce posts of 2012.
Moving Towards Co-Parenting – A very insightful post by Lee Brochstein about her personal divorce experiences. This particular post is on improving her relationship with her ex and how much that helped their co-parenting relationship.
CBS has reported a very bizarre triple homicide that, assuming it turns out to be accurate, is astounding. The story goes like this…a husband and wife were going through a contentious divorce, with the most significant part of the case being that the husband felt like he should be entitled to a share of a piece of real estate that wife had inherited. California law apparently is similar to Texas law in that the real estate was wife’s separate property and husband had no legal claim to it, due to the fact that it had been inherited by wife.
Apparently Continue reading
I have been asked this question more times than I can count during my career. More often, it is stated to me as fact, as in “well my child is over twelve, so she gets to decide who she wants to live with.” This belief is based on a misinterpretation of a very real Texas Family Code statute concerning the wishes of a child twelve or older.
Here is what Texas Family Code Section 153.009 says Continue reading