This is a guest blog by Katie Lammers, a family law attorney at Heimerl & Lammers in Minneapolis, Minnesota. Katie has handled hundreds of family law cases throughout her legal career and she relishes the opportunity to fight for her clients’ rights.
Every divorce is different. Some divorces can be quick and painless, while others are longer than both parties anticipated. No matter how the divorce plays out, saving money is usually a priority for the separating couple. Sometimes clients believe they can save money by neglecting to hire an attorney because both parties have agreed how divide the assets and debts in their divorce. While reaching an agreement with your spouse may help speed up the divorce, it is still important to consider hiring an attorney to assist you in the process. Below, we’ll explain five reasons why it’s important to hire an attorney during your “quickie divorce.”
Paperwork Can Cause Delays
One of the main reasons people opt for a quickie divorce is because they want to move on with their life as soon as possible. By hiring a lawyer, you’ll save yourself the time of filling out the legal paperwork, and you’ll ensure that you won’t miss an important filing or deadline. Your attorney will be able to ease your mind when it comes to the legal side of the divorce, and they’ll make sure everything is drafted and filed correctly. If you miss a deadline, you could end up tacking on days, weeks or even months to your marriage. You also may have to take a day off of work in order to make a rescheduled court appearance if you forget to file a document.
The majority of couples seeking a divorce are doing so for the first time. Because of this, most people don’t know how the legalities of divorce will impact them down the road. An attorney can helped explain what lies ahead, and they can offer tips and insights that a person without an attorney would not have known.
You Might Not Actually Agree
This is an important point that arises all too often during the course of a divorce. While you and your spouse may have come to a verbal agreement, things may change when the ink hits the paper. If your spouse suddenly decides they want the house or car, you can be stuck at a standstill, which only lengthens the separation process. A divorce attorney can clearly and fairly outline the assets and debts, and they can help mediate if disagreements arise. If you and your spouse truly agree on everything, then the attorney can quickly draft the right paperwork to expedite the divorce.
Your Spouse Hires an Attorney
If your spouse hires an attorney, it should be a sign that you should hire one as well. Now, just because your spouse hires an attorney doesn’t mean he or she is trying to rip you off, but in these situations it’s best to have someone who is experienced with family law look over the documents your spouse’s attorney drafts. Your attorney will ensure that your best interests are at heart. Also, some people believe they can hire one attorney to represent both sides. This is problematic because as an attorney, we are trained to fight tooth and nail for our client. Imagine if the same attorney was asked to represent both the prosecution and the defense in a criminal trial. It wouldn’t work, because the attorney couldn’t put one client’s interests ahead of the other.
Divorce is Complex
While you and your spouse may agree on who get gets the house and how you’ll share custody of the kids, there are plenty of complex assets that need to be divided in a divorce. Many people overlook assets like 401k accounts, pension plans, and retirement benefits, and they forget to account for spousal payments, car payments, or loan debt. An attorney will make sure every asset is divided fairly, they’ll ensure you get all the benefits you’re entitled to receive.
Almost everyone deals with getting pulled over for speeding or some other minor traffic violation. A lot of people are unnerved when this happens and not sure how to handle it. Today we have a guest post by Andrew Flusche on just this subject. Andrew is a Virginia lawyer who helps drivers fight their tickets for Continue reading
Today we have as a guest blogger Adam Rosenblum of the Rosenblum Law Firm. His firm handles a lot of criminal cases including traffic defense. In today’s post he explains how failure to pay your child support can lead to a suspended license. please note that Mr. Rosenblum is licensed in New Jersey so the specific laws do not apply in Texas. However, just about every state in the country (including Texas) has a statute on the books allowing for the possibility of a suspended license as a penalty for failure to pay your child support. The obvious lesson is Continue reading
I don’t usually blog about celebrity divorces but I have been inundated with news stories about the Kardashian divorce for more than a year now so I am feeling a little bit celebratory upon hearing of a settlement. With all the money involved in the case it would be logical to assume that the reason the case took so long to resolve was that the parties were squabbling over who got what. In this case I think it was actually more a case of Kris Humphries (the NBA player husband) Continue reading
Texas divorce lawyers frequently refer to the “SPO” which is short for the Texas Standard Possession Order. This statute defines a default visitation schedule that is presumed to be in the child’s best interest. While this presumption is rebuttable under certain circumstances, my guess is that the Standard Possession Order (or some slightly modified version of it) is the visitation schedule in 90% or more of the divorce cases in Texas.
We have a treat today, marriage expert Mort Fertel is our guest blogger. He is the author of “Marriage Fitness: 4 Steps to Building & Maintaining Phenomenal Love” and a very big name in the field of marriage improvement and in today’s post he discusses how people can fix their marriages and avoid divorce. So here’s Mort:
For more than a decade now I’ve helped thousands of marriages come back from the brink of divorce. In this blog post, I want to offer some insight into how.
I want to start with an email I received from a man who was in the Lone Ranger Track of my Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp. Here’s the email…
Trish and I were high school sweethearts and have lived what appeared to her to be a “Cunningham” life for 25 years. I have a successful career, our kids are normal, and Trish made wonderful holiday celebrations for us throughout the years.
But things were not as ideal as they seemed. After the kids were born, Trish turned all her love and attention to them while neglecting me. This left me vulnerable and I had 5 affairs (some real relationships) over the past 15 years.
Long story short, Trish found out one month ago about my recent one, and I confessed to the others. She’s devastated and accuses me of ruining her life and being a fake. Continue reading
The following is a guest post on behalf of the Cantor Law Group, a prominent Phoenix divorce firm.
When it comes to determining the custody of a child in a custody proceeding, the courts will typically use the best interests of the child doctrine. This is often used when a married couple chooses to divorce there are one or more children involved or if a child has been born outside of marriage. Using this concept, the court will determine who the child lives with, how much contact the child will have with each parent and whether child support is granted to one of the parents. Continue reading
We always hear about mistakes that parents make while going through a divorce. There are many ways to do it wrong and no one does it perfectly. But instead of focusing on the myriad of things you can mess up when it comes to divorce and your kids let’s change the focus and get some ideas on exactly what you should do. Pyschcentral.com wrote an excellent post on exactly this topic that I would recommend to you if Continue reading
A 26 year long marriage study by the University of Michigan uncovered some very interesting and surprising facts about the impact that each spouse’s relationship with the in-laws had on that couple’s likelihood of divorce. This was first reported in the Wall Street Journal.
Impact of Husband’s Relationship with In-Laws
As one might expect, a close relationship between husband and his in-laws (the wife’s parents) was beneficial. The divorce rate for couples in this scenario was 20% lower as compared to Continue reading
A recent Norwegian study found that in couples who equally shared the housework the divorce rate was 50% higher! Now before we extrapolate too much from the study, we should note that the study was based on Norway couples only. Thus, their cultural norms play a significant role in their national divorce rates.
But still, 50% is pretty shocking.
Is Housework the Real Culprit?
The author of the study concluded that Continue reading